We’re back from a beautiful week in Kauai and as soon as I can get my pictures edited, I will post some more here. I’m a little distracted, though, because after a month of waiting, we finally got a placement call!
Some of you know how strange it is to get THE CALL (or THE EMAIL if you’re in an international adoption!) You’re on the list and waiting for your next kiddos and caller ID says it’s your foster family agency calling. Your mind races and you wonder if they’re just tying up loose ends from your last case, asking questions about something totally unrelated, or if this is the placement call you’ve been waiting for. It is. They are calling about a sibling pair. A boy, age 4, and a girl, age 5.
So much has gone into making this moment a reality. You’ve gone through the agency checklist and identified the issues and behaviors you are willing to accept and those you are not. Of course, there are no guarantees, just like with our biological children. The agency cannot know every situation in the child’s history, nor can they predict how they will react in your family or what will happen in their future. But we go through the checklist (fire-starting, harming animals, NO. diabetes, delayed developmental milestones, YES) and tell them the ages, races, and genders we’re open to. For us it is any racial makeup or gender combination (boy-boy, boy-girl, girl-girl) for two kids under 7 or 8 years old. I know it sounds strange to those outside of the foster/adoption community to bring a child into your home without knowing much about them, but isn’t that what we all do when we get pregnant and have biological kids, too?
We are so hoping that we will be able to adopt our next kiddos and not have to go through the loss that we did with Midge. But in foster care, you just never know. On one hand, you should be rooting for parents to get their lives back together and for them to be able to take care of their children. On the other, what the county says is adequate parenting doesn’t always mesh with what we think is adequate parenting. In the end, in foster care, you just have to pray and trust that God will bring you the children He has planned for your family for whatever amount of time He sees fit. We will look at this next placement as a foster placement. The case has not closed and the parental rights have not yet been terminated. The county can make their predictions, but in the end, only God knows what will happen. Luckily, He loves us and these kids even more than we do. They are all His children after all, aren’t they? Even the ones we claim as our own.
So this week we are hoping to meet the kids and the Aunt with whom they’ve been living off and on over the past two years. We need a little bit more information about their visitations and where they are in the court proceedings before moving forward. Once we get a chance to talk to the Aunt and meet the kids (a rarity before taking a foster placement!) things could move forward very quickly! It’s such a strange thing, thinking that you have other kids out there and you wouldn’t even recognize them if you met them in the aisles of Target. Foster Care and Adoption are so strange and emotional…feeling such a strong tie of love to people whom you’ve never even met.
It’s scary and exciting. And hopefully it’s soon! That is, if they haven’t already been placed with someone else since our phone call on Wednesday, which is a distinct possibility. Wouldn’t that be something, to finally get the call, go through the stages of apprehension and fear and make your way towards excitement, only to have the kids placed somewhere else? I wouldn’t be surprised, really.
This is foster care.
Here’s hoping for a beautiful ending.
To all who mourn, he will give a crown of beauty for ashes, a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair. In their righteousness, they will be like great oaks that the LORD has planted for his own glory. -Isaiah 61:3